Bottom of the Barrel Dating Site POF! # 1

Bottom of the Barrel Dating Site POF: #1!

 

I am all about investigations and so here is what I did, I signed up on POF.com (Plenty Of Fish).

I filled out my profile and asked questions.

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QUESTION 1: Let us start with what you prefer, to answer go ahead and message me your answer! Which do you prefer, Relationships? **** Buddies? Fly By One Night Stands!?

The outcome of that was well over 300 responses and that is just in my area. 65% of men on that site and in my area preferred fuck buddies. 30% of men prefer one night stands and 5% preferred a relationship. And what tickled me the most were the fuck buddies and one night stands were very narcissistic and rude in a sense when speaking with me. The whole trying to degrade me while asking me on a date? Ok so with most men on the site I have no hope for them. I am going to explain that there was this gentleman on the site and he picked fuck buddies. I felt sorry for him but admired him at the same time (Crazy I know). He fully admitted that relationships and one night stands were too much work. As I read his reasonings I was thinking “??????” Like what the hell! Then he, in full disclosure that is who he is and he is too lazy!

Now, in defense of the men, it isn’t easy. I sparked up a conversation with a few that seemed somewhat interested in conversation. I asked: “What are the women like on this site?” I did that because I wanted to know what exactly it is like being in a man’s position. So, I asked and they ALL said the same thing “They are catfishes or they are webcam models looking for clients.” I asked “If there were real ones?” they did reply with “Very few and if there are then they are extremely rude and defensive.” So technically, with this site, it is for women to play, men too. Men are only interested in hooking up and a few rare want legitimate friends or relationships and are willing to get to know you.cfae0bd5abf315342503abac41a73804

I then needed to ask myself, why is it that women feel the need to catfish? Is it to pass the time? Is it because they don’t feel good enough about the real person that they are so they feel safe making up a persona? That then takes me back to women need to embrace and accept who they are. Guys don’t come on the site to look for the next victoria secret model. They all have their own definitions of beauty and what they are attracted too. Don’t do complicated things, don’t be complicated and just be you.

Now, In defense of the women, I feel sorry. I feel sorry because I consider myself to be attractive and have been told on many occasions that I am. However, this one man came across with lines claiming he speaks Italian. I legitimately speak Italian as a third language. He claimed he did as well. However what he said to me was something along the lines as “be my bitch” or something of that nature. So, I do know with men saying “let’s hook up bitch” or “Show me them boobies” I can see where women get defensive.

Then we all know that the rest of the POF population is unsalvageable. No need to talk about webcam girls or catfishing because women get that too. So if you are looking for a hookup site then go to POF. If you are wanting anything with substance or solid. Not going to happen on POF.

Stay tuned for #2!

Big Hugs!

T.G.

Today’s Forecast: Foggy with a Strong Chance of Creative

Today’s Forecast: Foggy with a Strong Chance of Creative

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I think most people avoid dark, gloomy weather, but to be honest, I love it!

Maybe there’s something wrong with me. Or maybe it’s my preferred genre, horror, that requires a somber environment.

Whatever the reason, when it’s cold and gray outside, I get the urge to create. I brew some coffee and snuggle under a blanket since I prefer not to wear clothes if I don’t have to, and I dive into the recesses of my imagination, conjuring blood and villains.

So while all those so-called “well adjusted” people out there crave summertime and sunlight and vitamin D, I’m over here waiting for the fog to roll in.
Now remind me … why did I leave Oregon again?

Big hugs!
T.G.

Kill Christmas Stress with Angry S-E-X!

Tis the season for holiday stress. You’ve got family to entertain, meals to prep, gifts to wrap, and money to spend, spend, spend. No wonder you and your spouse are starting to snap! It’s probably time for to take a bit of stress out … on each other!

In case you hadn’t noticed, I’m a huge advocate for rage sex. There’s really nothing hotter than venting your frustrations through a hard, angry fuck. Hair pulling, spanking, pinching, growling.

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It’s even more fun if you get creative. And I’m not talking about that tired old cliche of playing Mr. and Mrs. Claus.
I’m talking about sneaking off to some hidden location while the in-laws argue over Trump. Create a code word to signal when it’s time to ghost the chaos, then go somewhere no one is likely to look for you. Try the attic, or the basement, or even a closet — someplace cramped and dirty and reminiscent of your first awkward fuck in the back seat of a Plymouth.

Then go for it. Don’t ask; don’t apologize, don’t make conversation. Pinch, pull, hit, name call. Then bliss out on the endorphins.
You’ll be having a holly jolly Christmas in no time.

Slaves Aren’t Individuals … and That’s the Point!

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Slaves Aren’t Individuals … and That’s the Point!

I saw this photo the other day, and while I’m sure there are plenty of women out there who got the tingles when they read it, I have to call bullshit. While it’s really romantic to think of submission in terms of free men choosing to kneel at the feet of dominant women, it doesn’t work that way, in my experience.0d25ab7641276c3b3e2ca802ffd3b139-1At least not in the world of phone sex.
See, here’s the thing: When a guy becomes a slave, he ceases to be an individual with free will. That’s the point. And typically, he doesn’t choose to become a slave. A guy who is willing to have his free will and dignity stripped away isn’t acting on impulse. He has deep-seated needs that he’s seeking to have addressed. He turns to a dom to take control because he NEEDS the dom to take control.
There are plenty of explanations for why this happens. Maybe the sub feels like he has too many responsibilities in his day-to-day life. Maybe he’s an alpha type who gets a thrill from being overpowered. One of the things I feel makes me good as a dom is the fact that I can suss these motivations out and use them as leverage against my slaves.
But in the end, the results are the same: My slaves aren’t individuals. Once I’ve dug to the core of what makes them tick, I have all the power I need to make sure that they don’t have any control over their actions, because I own them. They are my property to be used at will. I take everything I want.
Lucky for them, I’m a pretty decent person at heart, and wouldn’t take (too much) advantage of my power.
So yeah — I guess it’s all sweet and nice that my submissives choose to kneel at my feet … when I tell them to!
Now kneel!
Haha.
Big hugs!
T.G.

Rowling is About to Start Another JK Ripple Effect!

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With all the hype around JK Rowling’s new movie, “Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them,” I predict we are about to see another wave of what I like to call the JK Ripple Effect.
So how does the JK Ripple effect work?
I’ve noticed that after any new Harry Potter book or movie comes out, we see an explosion of books involving wizardry and magic.
I understand why authors do this. Magic and fantasy are obviously popular topics, and why not give readers what they want? Book fans vote with their hard-earned dollars, and given how many people have plunked down their money on HP tales, they obviously like what they see.
Here’s the thing, though: I think HP would have been popular even if there hadn’t been a single magical element in it. Not a centaur, not a snitch, nor a Nearly Headless Nick. It’s easy to forget that inside all those trappings is a classic coming-of-age story that touches on major themes of hardship, loss, despair and resilience. The books are stuffed full of well-developed, believable characters, and JK managed to work in themes that seem especially relevant in today’s Trump America.
In other words, it isn’t the magic that made HP magic.
I predict that people are going to love Fantastic Beasts. And they will continue to revel in JK’s brilliant worlds. And writers will continue to tap into the fantasy she creates.
So for the next few months, we can expect to see a lot of robes and wands on book covers.
Big hugs!
T.G.

For All Writers On All Levels…We All Have Critics…

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When Criticism Becomes Bullying

So here’s the thing: As a writer, I welcome feedback. I need feedback if I’m going to grow and develop my talents. And book reviews are a great way to get that feedback.

If done well, reviews serve a dual purpose: they not only let potential readers know about the quality of a work, but they can also provide a red flag to observant authors.

But that only works if the feedback is CONSTRUCTIVE. Unfortunately, there’s a line where book reviews can become outright bullying.

Unfortunately, I witnessed this behavior lately. After posting a story to Amazon, I received a scathing review that at first devastated me as a budding writer. Was I really as bad as this person claimed?

It was only after doing some research that I realized it wasn’t personal. This woman wrote a lot of reviews, and I couldn’t find a single one that was positive.

Not one.

In fact, most of the reviews I found weren’t even about books. They were about hair dye.  And candy bars.

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I got over my pain really quickly.

Plus, thankfully, I have received more balanced criticism of my work. I have gotten reviews that told me specifically what worked, what didn’t, and where I could improve my work. It didn’t tear me down without any effort to try to build me back up.

Because ain’t nobody got time for that.

Big hugs!

T.G.

Are You A Married Man? Craving The Girlfriend Experience? Get Them Both From The Same Place!

Disclaimer: This isn’t phone sex, just simple advice!

 

As a phone sex operator, I learned what fantasies tend to get men going. Though I took calls with men wanting all kinds of interesting scenarios, a few popular themes emerged, from seducing the babysitter to succumbing to the flirtatious next door neighbor.

But there was one theme that stuck out to me the most, possibly because it was one I found more sad than fun. I had a lot of married guys calling and asking for me to treat them like I would if I was a new girlfriend.

That’s right — they were paying money for me not to seduce them, but to merely act like I liked them.

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There’s a part of me that thinks it’s ironic to have married men paying to act like they’re in a relationship. But there’s another part of me that totally gets it. It’s no secret that after men and women have been married long enough, they can be at risk of taking each other for granted. Maybe they get a little emotionally lazy, or their priorities change.

I used to have this one caller. We’ll call him Stan. The first time he called, I asked what he wanted, and he told me he wanted me to talk to him like we’d just met. The poor guy needed someone to seem interested in him again. Flirt with him a little bit.

He and his wife had been married fifteen years, and when the magic started to fade, he said he tried to spice things back up again until his wife flat-out told him he wasn’t worth the extra effort.

The only thing they were going to do was die together.

So tragic.

People need validation. They need to feel wanted. Just remember what it felt like when you first fell in love, when you had someone who thought you were funny and pretty and valid and important. Think about how that made you feel. Now see what you can do to recapture it.

I do have one suggestion, as crazy as it may sound: Add more rage sex to your relationship.

Yeah, that’s right. Rage sex.

Don’t argue. Don’t hold grudges. Have sex. Have angry, rough, violent sex. Take all that frustration out physically. It will help your relationship mentally, I promise.

For example, let’s say hubby calls you because you’re running late. He sounds pissed because he needs your help around the house. But you’re out at the PTA meeting. It’s not like you’re killing time.

He’s cranky. You’re pissed. The temptation is to yell and vent. But don’t do that.

Do this: say, “Suck it up!”

Say, “Make it work.”

Say, “I’m at the fucking PTA meeting.”

And hang up.

And you’ve initiated a rough form of foreplay.

Once you hang up, follow up with a quick text saying something like, “I’m going to get you so hard when I get home.”

Then let the passionate hate fuck commence.

You’ll both feel better afterward.

Trust me, no relationship is perfect, but it can be better than it is. If you look hard enough at your spouse, you will find the person you met so many years ago. The one who flirted with you and made you feel so important.

Marriage is hard work, sure, but find your kinks again. Women, throw on a bit of mascara and get those “fuck me” eyes.

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Men, you don’t need much coaxing, but just RAVAGE her!

Bust the headboard.

Bust the box spring (trust me, it can be done).

And you will have so much fun.

Big hugs!

T.G.