Are You A Married Man? Craving The Girlfriend Experience? Get Them Both From The Same Place!

Disclaimer: This isn’t phone sex, just simple advice!

 

As a phone sex operator, I learned what fantasies tend to get men going. Though I took calls with men wanting all kinds of interesting scenarios, a few popular themes emerged, from seducing the babysitter to succumbing to the flirtatious next door neighbor.

But there was one theme that stuck out to me the most, possibly because it was one I found more sad than fun. I had a lot of married guys calling and asking for me to treat them like I would if I was a new girlfriend.

That’s right — they were paying money for me not to seduce them, but to merely act like I liked them.

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There’s a part of me that thinks it’s ironic to have married men paying to act like they’re in a relationship. But there’s another part of me that totally gets it. It’s no secret that after men and women have been married long enough, they can be at risk of taking each other for granted. Maybe they get a little emotionally lazy, or their priorities change.

I used to have this one caller. We’ll call him Stan. The first time he called, I asked what he wanted, and he told me he wanted me to talk to him like we’d just met. The poor guy needed someone to seem interested in him again. Flirt with him a little bit.

He and his wife had been married fifteen years, and when the magic started to fade, he said he tried to spice things back up again until his wife flat-out told him he wasn’t worth the extra effort.

The only thing they were going to do was die together.

So tragic.

People need validation. They need to feel wanted. Just remember what it felt like when you first fell in love, when you had someone who thought you were funny and pretty and valid and important. Think about how that made you feel. Now see what you can do to recapture it.

I do have one suggestion, as crazy as it may sound: Add more rage sex to your relationship.

Yeah, that’s right. Rage sex.

Don’t argue. Don’t hold grudges. Have sex. Have angry, rough, violent sex. Take all that frustration out physically. It will help your relationship mentally, I promise.

For example, let’s say hubby calls you because you’re running late. He sounds pissed because he needs your help around the house. But you’re out at the PTA meeting. It’s not like you’re killing time.

He’s cranky. You’re pissed. The temptation is to yell and vent. But don’t do that.

Do this: say, “Suck it up!”

Say, “Make it work.”

Say, “I’m at the fucking PTA meeting.”

And hang up.

And you’ve initiated a rough form of foreplay.

Once you hang up, follow up with a quick text saying something like, “I’m going to get you so hard when I get home.”

Then let the passionate hate fuck commence.

You’ll both feel better afterward.

Trust me, no relationship is perfect, but it can be better than it is. If you look hard enough at your spouse, you will find the person you met so many years ago. The one who flirted with you and made you feel so important.

Marriage is hard work, sure, but find your kinks again. Women, throw on a bit of mascara and get those “fuck me” eyes.

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Men, you don’t need much coaxing, but just RAVAGE her!

Bust the headboard.

Bust the box spring (trust me, it can be done).

And you will have so much fun.

Big hugs!

T.G.

What I’ve Learned: Intimacy Tips from a Phone Sex Dom

A Q&A with TG Emmerson

Emmerson’s thoughts were doggie style was the height of kink when she plunged into the world ofj_nibblr no-taboo and taboo phone sex. Her small-town upbringing couldn’t prepare her for the twisted fantasies she soon found herself playing out. Other experiences as an operator taught her plenty of lessons about secret desires and the things that go unsaid in a relationship.
Q: You did thousands of phone sex calls during your career. What was your typical client?
I’d say 80 percent of my regular clients were either married or in a committed relationship.They’d pop into the chat room where I set up sessions and say they’d call once their wife left the house.
Q: Married callers? That’s scandalous! What was one predominant theme you took away from those calls?
People say that sex is an act of love, and that’s true to some extent, but it is also something that should be fun in the relationship. I think too often, guys have fantasies they don’t feel safe expressing to their spouses or partners. They’re worried about being judged if they divulge their darker urges, but those urges need to be expressed.
That’s why they call phone sex operators — they need a safe place to talk about their fantasies. If guys didn’t have an obsessive need for change in the bedroom, I wouldn’t get any calls.
Q: So no judgment?
I think it’s important to create an environment of trust. A quality relationship is one where partners can share their secrets without fear of judgment.
I talked to people all the time who would get in trouble if their wives even caught them so much as watching porn, which I find so sad. It’s important to keep in mind that most men want to remain faithful to their wives, and if they want to add porn or roleplay into the mix, that’s fine. They are still ultimately having sex with you. And more times than not are fantasizing about you while they watch porn or want a roleplay. NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF!
Q: So … porn is in?
If you walk in and find your partner watching porn, don’t judge. Join in! Help out. It will heighten the experience for both of you.

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Q:So how would monogamous couples add spice back into their relationships?
The first step is to look for opportunities to add spontaneity in the bedroom. Start simple. Don’t push it to a point where you’re questioning yourself, but it’s important to own someone’s mind as well as their body.
For wives, I suggest sending text messages saying things like, “I’m going to own you tomorrow.” or even something as simplistic as “I want you bad!”
If you’re giving him a blowjob, maybe throw a blindfold on him. Once you take away his ability to see, his other senses will be heightened, and he’ll love it.
But have fun. He’s your husband or your partner! Why not tie a pair of panties around his balls before you send him off to work for the day?

Ultimately what I have learned is don’t take intimacy seriously. Let’s not get it twisted; it can be intimidating, but this is why communication is important for both involved. Kink is not a bad thing, and yet that is where a lot of people get scared. It should be passionate and fun at the same time.

TG